cherokee's dwelling place

While scanning through the bookstands at a famous local bookstore to find a good reference for my paper’s Chapter II – Review of Related Literature, I came across an interesting title that eventually led me to purchase it.

Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman’s Click: The Magic of Instant Connections is an easy to read book. The book is an affirmation to my observations on how and why people connect with each other. Why people click?

The book explains that there are 5 instances on why people click. Vulnerability, Proximity, Similarity, Resonance, and Environment.

Vulnerability – People may fear to share something intimate about their life but if the timing for self-disclosure is right, a more meaningful relationship may blossom.

Proximity – Remember your childhood friends. Are not they your neighbors and classmates in school? The regularity of seeing and meeting each other becomes an opportunity for a lasting relationship.

Similarity – People have weird and puzzling habits that may turn people off but when they meet a certain individual that has the same craziness that they have, they are in for a long conversation, a good laugh and a gateway to a non-conventional relationship.

Resonance – The attraction to something relevant which may not necessarily be similar fosters a connection that may eventually lead to a relationship that is for keeps.

Environment – People feel connected to an environment that is essential or reminds them of great memories like home. The homey climate, the familiar sound, the nostalgic taste, the delectable aroma…

Ori and Rom further explains in the book that there are also Naturals – people who seamlessly connect with others with ease. They usually have good public relations skills. Moreover, there are also those who are High Self-Monitors – people who readily adjust or adapt to an ambient and modulate emotional expression. And I believe that to be a High Self-Monitor is to be highly disciplined also.

People connect because something feels right and people click because they nurture the connection. The magic of instant connections may happen at an absurd place and time but when the magic sparks it brings people to a different level of consciousness and experience.

*** I wish every reader of my blog to experience the magic of connection.